What to do when having an 'LQ'?

Lovers’ Quarrel it is! And yes, in our 2 years, 5 months and 2 weeks of marriage, we have had many. We have our own share of untold down-in-the-dumps. Whatever the grounds are, a quarrel is still a quarrel that badly needs squaring off before long, before any rueful actions done. All right, I am no expert here, and still an amateur on marriage or any relationship. I just want to spills the beans and let you in a little on the facts of how I act and react when in a tiff with the man I pledged, before God and men, to be with all my life through ups and downs.

Okay, here are two different sets of actions/reactions and outcomes to a same situation – ‘LQ’

BEFORE:

-          I intentionally bring the house down with me when I’m upset! I.e. no cleaning, no laundering, no dish washing, just letting everything cluttered and shambolic!

-          I go on hunger strike, really!

-          I slack and slumber all day long or go elsewhere and come home late!

-          I drag up his past flaws and faults, and plan on doing silly things!

§  OUTCOME: I end up more upset and madder. Hungry. Sleepless at night and filled with negative thoughts and get up the next morning even madder. And when it’s time to kiss and make up, I end up exhausted with all the household errands that are now twofold, argh!

AT THE PRESENT (When I got tired of all after-LQ frustrations and also baby came.):

-          I do general cleaning, as in! Of course I can’t risk my baby’s health. Sparkling clean from corner to corner tsk… tsk… just exaggerating a little!

-          I eat, do, go, and buy whatever I want. No more hunger strikes and no more coming home late!

-          I try with all my best not to think on any negative past and avoid doing silly things.

-          I prepare and join him during meal time.

§  OUTCOME: Okay, I still get upset and do or think of silly things but not that bad anymore. I get a good night sleep, obviously because I’m too tired after running all errands. Not hungry, plus the glee of satisfying myself with a bit of luxury. I get up the next morning lighter and brighter and a lot more welcome for a kiss and make up, teehee!

Aye, we still are caught in a tiff every once in a while, but now we don’t bring the house down anymore, no more hurtful words, and we always still try to eat together on the same plate, yes right, on a single plate like we always do after we tied the knot. We both hate verbal fights, thank God, which really made a great deal of difference. And we certainly both love to keep each other until the end of time so we are working hard to save ourselves from any marriage disasters. We pray and we live our oath!