How do you feel when your man tells other people, "HONESTLY, I AM VERY BLESSED WITH MY WIFE."?
These words just makes my tears out of control and makes me strive more to be a better wife ^^,
I am not really a kiss-and-tell or post-it-on-Facebook type of person but I just couldn’t contain the joy inside of me (he actually said these exactly the same words to someone 2 weeks and 5 days ago). I love it more to hear from other people what lovely things they see in me or my family because I just find the reaction sweeter when someone finds it out for himself than when it is I who let somebody in on the facts, and also I fret to sound like bragging.
As I look back and see our four-year marriage, I am just filled with awe and gratefulness to the Almighty. Yes, its not perfect nor I can say it will be. We still have our ups and downs, love-hate responses, down-in-the-dumps moments, that I-hope-you-change thoughts and all that, but the Lord is gradually knitting our lives together perfectly. A the end of the day, we are just so blessed to know that our love for each other is on the rise and is continually refined by the Most Holy from up above.
And with conviction I can say that indeed I am truly blessed with my God-given husband! ^^,
#Godgivenmarraige
#itisALWAYSbesttowaitfortheoneGODhaspreparedforyou
#allglorytotheLORD!
#HAPPY4thANNIVERSARYhon-March26
Friday, March 27, 2015
Sunday, September 29, 2013
I Denied My Loved Ones, HOW CRAZY IS THAT?!
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the worst feeling i ever had (photo not mine) |
I feel
ridiculous, really. I know you are raising your brows on me. Yes, I did deny
my loved ones, my dear husband and son particularly. WHY? HOW DARE I? I still question
myself up until writing this post since the day before yesterday. Though never
will be acquitted but anyhow, please allow me to explain myself.
Now
then, I am into this urgent matter, definitely legal, that needs my valid I.D.,
Community Tax Certificate (cedula) and Birth Certificate. It’s my bad I didn’t work
on validating my marital status on my Identification Card right after the wedding.
Okay, so obviously still on it is my mother’s last name and my status, single. I
had no choice but to use it due to urgency. I need a recent Community Tax
Certificate so I did go to the city hall and filled up the needed info, yes I made
sure that it would agree with my I.D... It was all okay until the office clerk
started an unexpected interview (I’ve been into this a lot of times but only
then that I am trapped with this silly conversation, yes really silly!).
Clerk: Are you living-in with someone?
Me: (mind puzzled with such a ridiculous question and just raised my brows with a clueless face)
Clerk: (on a loud irritated voice) Do you have a live-in partner?
Me: NO! (that was technically correct right? because I am legally wedded so I thought I am not saying the wrong thing)
Clerk: Do you have a child?
Me: (confused and hesitant telling myself, “I declared I’m single and without a partner so it would be wrong to say I have a child so I just responded with hesitant act of refusal)
Immediately
after my response, it felt like the heavens and the earth crashed on me. I never
felt this worst feeling before. I was so upset that when the clerk handed me
the certificate I just stood still and kept staring at it and badly wanting to
wind back the time and just declare my real status whatever it takes. I was so
upset that tears were heaping and racing out my eyes, and my heart pounding and
bursting with indescribable pain.
Too late!
Even if I would immediately act on changing it, I still did deny them. I denied
the most important part of why my heart beats. How crazy is that? I went home
nagging at myself, “You love them? How could you deny them? And for what?” Then, I apologetically told my husband about
it and asked, “What do you think of what I did? Am I foolish?” He gently
replied, “I just feel rejected.”
Ouch! I couldn’t
be more upset! My husband’s response was just another proof of my foolishness!
I surely
will work on my papers without more ado and make things right once and for all.
Monday, September 9, 2013
What to do when having an 'LQ'?
Lovers’ Quarrel it is! And yes, in our 2 years, 5 months and
2 weeks of marriage, we have had many. We have our own share of untold down-in-the-dumps.
Whatever the grounds are, a quarrel is still a quarrel that badly needs
squaring off before long, before any rueful actions done. All right, I am no
expert here, and still an amateur on marriage or any relationship. I just want
to spills the beans and let you in a little on the facts of how I act and react
when in a tiff with the man I pledged, before God and men, to be with all my
life through ups and downs.
Okay, here are two different sets of actions/reactions and outcomes
to a same situation – ‘LQ’
BEFORE:
-
I intentionally bring the house down with me when I’m
upset! I.e. no cleaning, no laundering, no dish washing, just letting
everything cluttered and shambolic!
-
I go on hunger strike, really!
-
I slack and slumber all day long or go elsewhere and
come home late!
-
I drag up his past flaws and faults, and plan on doing
silly things!
§
OUTCOME: I end up more upset and madder. Hungry.
Sleepless at night and filled with negative thoughts and get up the next
morning even madder. And when it’s time to kiss and make up, I end up exhausted
with all the household errands that are now twofold, argh!
AT THE PRESENT (When I got tired of all after-LQ
frustrations and also baby came.):
-
I do general cleaning, as in! Of course I can’t risk my
baby’s health. Sparkling clean from corner to corner tsk… tsk… just exaggerating
a little!
-
I eat, do, go, and buy whatever I want. No more hunger
strikes and no more coming home late!
-
I try with all my best not to think on any negative
past and avoid doing silly things.
-
I prepare and join him during meal time.
§
OUTCOME: Okay, I still get upset and do or think
of silly things but not that bad anymore. I get a good night sleep, obviously
because I’m too tired after running all errands. Not hungry, plus the glee of
satisfying myself with a bit of luxury. I get up the next morning lighter and
brighter and a lot more welcome for a kiss and make up, teehee!
Aye, we still are caught in a tiff every once in a while,
but now we don’t bring the house down anymore, no more hurtful words, and we
always still try to eat together on the same plate, yes right, on a single
plate like we always do after we tied the knot. We both hate verbal fights, thank
God, which really made a great deal of difference. And we certainly both love
to keep each other until the end of time so we are working hard to save
ourselves from any marriage disasters. We pray and we live our oath!
Tuesday, September 3, 2013
Now I Know!
From the moment I, with Surgeons’ help, brought our darling baby out to
this world to each passing day there was never an instance that my little
darling stays a long way away. I always ‘baby wear’ the world over until that
one particular day, my granddad’s 70th birthday (August 25, 2013)
which calls for a clan reunion. That day happened to be the same day with
another very important engagement so the husband and I decided to join the
get-together later. The presence of the nearest-and-dearests was a must so they
insisted to take along my little one with them to make sure that we’re coming
over. Actually we agreed, but from the time I heard that idea, though I already
gave approval, I was ill at ease. Then the big day came, they were all excited
to bring, even argued who would carry and cuddle, my darling baby whose only
one year, 6 months and 21 days young then, I was still uneasy deep within.
It’s not that I don’t trust any of them to take good care of him; perhaps it’s just
that exact sentiment I frequently hear from co-mamas when they’re away with
their children, now I know!
On the other hand, I couldn't deny the glee of freedom and
convenience, actually. Anyhow, the situation made me remember how it felt to be
able to use both hands again in doing a task, freely moving here and there. Oh
yeah, carefree, clutter free guise and handbag and sweaty no more. I must say I
relished every moment, why not, for only at the moment. And yes, the hubby did
say, “I miss this ‘only you and me’ time.” – silly but true =) tsk… tsk… Then later a friend commented, “You look like newlywed.” =D Oh, really?!! Are we too showy that we’re
enjoying our uninterrupted moments together?
Hahahahahaha!
Uh huh! We did enjoy our carefree moments but actually our little
darling was always our gab topic. And as soon as we were over and done with our
prime engagement, we hurriedly hit the road to grandpa’s county to reunite with
our longed-for kinfolks, celebrate grandpa’s well and advanced years and of course
be with our darling baby. It was a tiring long trip. I don't know exactly how my little Joseph felt while we were apart, all I know is that he's very happy to be with us again, so do I. Seeing our little one’s
sweetest smile and chuckle, and clapping his teensy-weensy hands the moment he saw us and call out
to the top of his voice, “MAMA!” awww everything just gleamed like a sunbeam
and all the longing and grogginess eluded. Now I know! =)
Desperate Cooking: Revealing A Teensy Weensy Secret!
Today is another smiley day, indeed one of our best bright-and-breezy days. Actually it’s just a typical ordinary day made special by
these cheesy yet oh so heartening words from my man, “I love you more than yesterday!”
He’s not someone innately romantic, just plain and simple and a man who’s never
flashy especially with words of endearment. That explains why I rate highly and
take pleasure in each and every word and or deed of gratitude displayed.
Okay! Okay! No more ado’s. It all started with a little
flattering remark to a yummy dish we both love yet always leaves a lingering
stinky smell at the kitchen, spicy ‘pusit’. The remark was not for the yummy
cooking, yes it was yummy he said, really =P but for the absence of the stinky smell. Now,
no need to freshen up the kitchen over and over again when cooking such.
The secret? A squeeze or two of Calamansi drives that fishy
smell away. Actually the discovery was just a happenstance. It was not really
part of the ingredients, only something I tried to neutralize my saline dish tsk…
tsk… what a bolt from the blue that it did not only enhanced the flavor but also
eliminate that stinky fishy smell for good. Awesome!
Sunday, August 18, 2013
The JOY of Being a FATHER
The joy of being a Father?
A natural-born female, a daughter deprived of a father, now
a mother, I find it difficult to grasp a father’s emotional state. I have
always been into my own sentiments in life - womanhood, motherhood and all that
girl stuffs.
I even have this thinking that no one would ever love my
child like I do, besides the Almighty. However, seeing my husband’s endless
smiles, lasting patience, affectionate care and all his hard work accentuate
his love for our little one. I must say fatherhood made him more committed as a
family man, and yes this tough-and-not-at-all-romantic dude became gentle, more
affectionate, more sympathetic and more responsible.
To be honest, I negatively bated breath on him regarding marriage
and fatherhood. Well, he’s absolutely not a bad catch to begin with; it’s just
the fact that we all have individual negativity that we can never deny of. I love
him and thank God for him. I sure know he is heaven sent and its God’s good
will that brought us accord. And each day of our lives together, good or bad, is
God’s wonderful workmanship to create a masterpiece.
I have come to realize that this dad truly loves his son never less than his child’s mama. I know I’ll never be able to figure out the joy of
being a father but I am ever so grateful to this man who undoubtedly loves his
kid with all the best that he can and by also loving and caring for his kid’s
mama. Awwww (joyful tears)!
Friday, August 16, 2013
Desperate Cooking: PAKBET
Pakbet has been my eversince favorite but my significant
other finds it really hard to enjoy. Obviously he’s a lover of meat and some
carefully chosen seafood. He’s always a snub when it comes to vegetables, so I tried
a trick he wouldn't refuse. At this point, preparing this dish is not anymore
infuriating but fulfilling! Aye! I triumphed in making him eat veggies! But only
pakbet for now, at least. Thank God my
little one is not that hard to feed veggies like his dad. =P
Here’s MY CHOICE OF
INGREDIENTS:
·
100 grams Eggplant
·
50 grams String Beans
·
50 grams Okra
·
500 grams Alugbati
·
500 grams Pork
·
Onion and Garlic
·
Salt and one small pack of that seasoning with
magic =P
·
Cooking oil
·
Soy Sauce
MY WAY OF DOING IT:
1.
Wash all the ingredients that need to be washed such
as: Pumpkin, Eggplant, String Beans, Okra, Alubati and Pork. Then slice them
and also the spices.
2.
Saute onion and garlic, then the pork till brown. Add soy
sauce to desired amount immediately after putting the pork.
3.
Add all the veggies. Put salt and that seasoning with a
magic. Simmer till veggies are well done. (I actually prefer it overly done,
like it’s almost mashed.)
4.
Then add the alugbati. Simmer till alugbati is well-cooked.
(If not using a non-stick pan, check and stir from time to time to avoid
charred veggies.)
5.
Plate and serve. =)
Oh! The trick? Please notice my ingredients, I put more of
those that my hubby and baby likes such as pumpkin, alugbati and of course
pork. Also, I do it away with ampalaya.
This desperately-cooking-wife-and-mama is taking it all
slowly, one day at a time.
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